What is Get Happy Get Happier – 365?

You might be wondering what is Get Happy Get Happier – 365?

Getting happy to move through a big contrast

I think I just had the weekend of my life. I don’t know why I know this, I just do. I had a marvelous trip planned with playmate to go to a mountain ski town for the weekend with some friends who were flying in from out-of-state. I was excited. He was excited. We stopped for dinner on the way to the airport to pick up our friends. Then we hit a contrast that felt like being hit by a Mack truck in a head on collision. I shall not go into details because it is not important. But let it suffice it to say that there was definitely the possibility that playmate and I might have been over. And there we looked at each other. I am asking if I should even still go and he is not answering. It was terrible timing. It was heart wrenching. Ultimately when he asked what I wanted to do, I said I wanted to go. It was a rough start to the weekend. I wondered all the way up if this was going to be the end. I wondered if it was going to be one of those things where you act like you are a couple to save face with your friends, but ultimately you know at the end of the weekend it will crumble into a million pieces when the weekend is over. I think we both cried ourselves to sleep. But somewhere in the middle of the night I pulled myself together. I received the most incredible inspiration to follow. I realized that playmate is not my everything and that my most important job is to get into my vortex, otherwise known as get happy. I also realized that I’d better be love if I want to receive love. I also knew that somehow, some way, that this could shift so big that it would seem like nothing ever happened. I knew my job was to get happy. So in the morning I proceeded to act like nothing happened. I did everything just the way I would have if we would not have had the big contrast the night before. It was a little tense at first. But…….as I did so, I received my very first sign that the ice between us was beginning to melt. And right then, I knew that I was on the right track. So all day, I just did whatever I could to have a good time and to be happy. And you know what….it was no time at all before playmate was treating me like normal. In fact, I would say that having come through the other side that we might be closer than we ever had been. We neither one have mentioned again anything about ending our relationship. We have never mentioned again what started the path to the fork in the road. But I think I can say with absolute confidence we took the same turn, hand-in hand. And we really are beginning to build something even stronger. And will this ultimately end in a life long relationship? I don’t know. All I know is that I am going to just live happy moment to happy moment for as long as we both enjoy each other. And somehow I suspect that is going to be for a very long time! What a weekend of learning to get happy, not dwell, to set intentions, and to trust! I am so happy with myself!! I so appreciate my playmate. I appreciate how he was smart enough to say that he just needed to not talk about it and take some time. I love getting happy! And I love having my playmate to help us both grow. If not for each other…I know that we are both going to end up with magnificent relationships of some sort.

Getting happy is definitely making the relationship better

So I’ve relaxed some. It certainly doesn’t mean I’m flawless at this stuff. But I’ve really been focusing on being the relationship that I want to have. My biggest lesson to date was when I experienced one version of playmate, on the very same evening, in the very same venue, than the one my friend experienced. Right then and there I realize that I attract the version of him that I am attracting. And someone else will attract what their version is. So……….I’ve been really putting that into play. And as I have relaxed, playmate has relaxed. And as I have begun expressing more and more of my feelings, he has begun expressing more feelings. But the best thing of all……….if I just focus on being happy, regardless of what he is doing, he either gets happy too, or we somehow don’t interact. I love knowing this. It isn’t always easy of course. And I certainly am blown out of the water now and then. Like earlier this week when I was ready to spend the day with him and not only did he choose not to spend it with me, he did something for the day that made me extra unhappy. BUT- I realize that at that point in time we were not going to be a match. So I got happy doing my own thing. He was happy doing his, and when we came together later that evening, after a small little tense moment, we both moved on, got happy, and had a delightful evening. This is so easy when we focus. We make it hard when we don’t focus on purpose. So I’m getting happier by the day, and being the relationship I want………and it is getting better and better!

Being the relationship I want

I just had a big a-ha today. One of the things that I’ve wanted in my relationship with playmate, or any future relationship for that matter, is to have it be open emotionally. I’ve wanted a relationship that I can express my feelings without holding back. I want my partner to express his feelings and be emotionally present. And yet for several relationships, maybe all of my relationships, it has not been that way. So as I began thinking more about it I realize that Law of Attraction is always at work. And so it is my vibration that is attracting relationships that are not emotionally open. As long as I am vibrating at a level of my own emotional hold back, that is what I’m going to keep attracting. So as badly as I might want my partner to emotionally open or commit, I have not been willing to do so myself. I’ve held back. I hold back because I’m always afraid that if I open up too much it might scare my partner away. And of course because I’m not being open he isn’t open to it either. Now obviously based on this theory, he too is attracting someone not open for whatever his reasons are. So I’ve realized that anything in my relationship that I see that I am not wanting is really just a reflection of what vibration I am giving off. So if my playmate is closed it is because I am being closed. If he is being negative it is because I am attracting his being that way. So the best thing I can do is continue imagining the relationship I want in order to up my vibration, but also imagine me and how I will be in that relationship that I want. And better yet, to start being it. So here is my start at feeling myself being the relationship I want:

I feel so relaxed and at ease in my relationship with playmate. Things are so easy now. I love that I have opened up so much. I am comfortable now with him calling me his girlfriend. I am excited to tell him how much I really love him. I love talking about the future and doing some deliberate creating together. I love how easy it is for me to just be myself with him. I love that I never censor what I am feeling. I love how open I feel. I love how my openness has brought his openness. We are having such a delightful time together. I really am at peace now. It feels so much better to be open and loving instead of holding back and censoring. I can’t really believe I ever did that. I’m not sure what I was so worried about. Playmate has been so receptive. As I began to open, so did he. We have created such a wonderful relationship. I do love him. And I love knowing that we are creating this together. I am love. I am in love. I express love. I give love. I receive love. Oh, how delicious this is!

A weekend in Las Vegas to browse for the future

Well playmate and I spent this last weekend in Las Vegas. I can’t say it was the best trip I’ve ever had in my life. But I will say that playmate and I had a marvelous time. However it was almost like it was a browsing trip, or window shopping trip. Nothing went bad per se. Playmate and I got along beautifully. But it seemed everything we did, saw, or ate was a little off. But the fun thing was, just like I am taking the contrasts that arise in our relationship and using them to clarify what I ultimately want in a relationship, we did the same thing about our trip. We didn’t love the hotel. So we started looking at all the other hotels, some of them going to see a room, so we would know where we wanted to stay next time. We didn’t eat at the best buffet…..so we started looking at others so we’d know where to eat a buffet next time. And we saw some absolutely terrible shows, in fact one that we walked out of. So we started looking at other shows. By the time we left, not only had we enjoyed our time with each other, but we’d browsed into the future of what a wonderful Las Vegas trip together will be like. And the best news…..I have found a partner who loves to travel, get out and explore just as much as I do! That is my playmate law of attraction at work! Such fun! So it wasn’t the best trip….but the positve aspects were: I got to know playmate even more, we found even more things we had in common, we both wanted to walk out of a show, we found a great country bar to do some dancing, he held my hand a lot while we were walking, he traded seats so he could sit next to me on the airplane, he was such a snuggler, he helped carry my bags, he offered to do things the way I wanted to do them, we found the best milkshake on earth at a place called Stripburger! So now I say…wouldn’t it be nice if some money fell out of the sky so we could go back and experience the trip that we found while browsing on this one!

Getting happy seems to work!

I almost wonder why I even started this latest experiment with my playmate. It seems that the moment I decided to get happy and focus on what I do want, and appreciate all of the wonderful things that were happening, that everything just started shifting immediately. Last night had to be our best night out dancing ever! And there were some things said that indicate that some of my rockets launched are already coming true. I don’t know that I could be much happier with playmate right now! He really is wonderful!

The better it gets, the better it gets!

Abraham has a saying, “the better it gets, the better it gets”, and I must say I’m finding that to be ever so true. It seems like since I started focusing on really what I want in a relationship and really appreciating the aspects of the one I’m in, the better it has been getting. I don’t know why this is surprising. But as the days go by I seem to notice more and more things about this relationship I have with playmate that I absolutely love. He is so thoughtful. So caring. And he will do just about anything that I want to do if I think it is going to be fun. Yesterday he agreed to take a weekend getaway trip with me. And as part of that getaway we are going to go to a concert that I’m certain most men would absolutely cringe about. And he’s going willingly……why? Because he’s that kind of guy. How can I not appreciate that? I’ve been wanting a playmate and boy have I found one. There’s not a thing that I’ve suggested we do that he hasn’t been willing to go along with. And I love it! And the fun thing is….I love to do all the things he suggests too! I’ve also seen this week what a big, kind heart he has for others. He has been most helpful to one of his friends who had to have some unexpected surgery. I love knowing that he is that big-hearted. I could go on and on about all of the things I’m appreciating about him lately. And the better it gets, the better it gets! So now I’m thinking, “wouldn’t it be nice if….” in addition to me having a fun playmate that I also have someone who openly expresses his emotional connection. Yes, indeed it would be fabulous! And knowing the law of attraction like I do, I can’t wait to see how quickly it shows up! Funny, I didn’t really know I wanted that until I got to here. So I’m excited to be having this experience to clarify what I’m wanting. Yippeee!

Should I stay or should I go??

Funny, that is exactly what I was thinking to myself today. That crazy question that my brain loves to rattle around from time to time, usually for no reason in particular. Then I read today’s Abraham quote and had to laugh out loud! It addresses exactly what this latest experiment of mine has been.

Should I Leave or Should I Stay…? It is very empowering to discover that your patterns of thought do not have to follow your current situation, and therefore your current situation (on all subjects) can change. . . . We do not recommend taking the physical action of leaving a relationship without deliberately coming into thought alignment with the new desires that have been born out of your current relationship. And then – whether you stay in this relationship or move on to another – you can have exactly what you desire.
— Abraham
Excerpted from the book, The Vortex, Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships

So as the day wears on, I realize there really is no question. Why would I go. This has been the best springboard for new desires I could possibly ask for. Playmate is exactly what I had been asking for, and now is the cause for me having even newer desires. Why on earth would I go?? He is the absolute greatest, and I have loved watching the law of attraction work so well with us. My latest…….I really, really wanted him to want to take country dance lessons with me. I had asked several times and didn’t get much movement. But I kept imagining it……..and poof out of the blue, we went to a country dance bar a couple of weeks ago, and now he’s signed on and ready to take them. I love this stuff!!

Is it really as simple as getting happy?

I’m starting to realize that the whole half empty half full glass is an important concept. If you look really hard at ANY situation you can probably find the half full or half empty way to look at it. And so if you are feeling stuck on something it really can be as simple as finding a way to get happy and then trying to look at it again. I’ve been experimenting these last few weeks with my relationship with the playmate. All I can say is I don’t think he is doing anything different, but I have really worked at getting happy and looking at things as half full. Instead, it seems like I’ve moved mountains. Maybe the things that were upsetting me aren’t happening any more. But likely, I think I’ve just shifted my attitude. I could sit here and list off a hundred things I appreciate about him. And it seems like the more I focus on them, the more they happen. And those things I don’t like……well, I try to get off of them as quickly as I can. And I try to realize that it is only my mind’s perspective (looking at it half empty) that is making me upset. So is it as simple as getting happy?? Yes I think it is. Here are a few things that I’ve found to appreciate about my playmate in the last 48 hours: He almost always answers when I call him, and when he doesn’t he calls back as soon as he can, he is participating with me in the make ahead dinner program and doing so enthusiastically, he left his friend to call me because he knew I’d be going to be soon and if he didn’t we wouldn’t get to talk, he offered to drive me to the airport, he offered to scrape the ice off my car, he found a building that he thought would be perfect for my dream career and even called to get information about it, he helped dream about it with me, he cleared his day so he could spend it with me before I went to airport to go out-of-town for work this week, he made me find positive things to say about the hotel room I was not enjoying, he made me smile when he found positive things to say about the country bar we went to that he does not enjoy, he shared his milkshake with me, he helped me parallel park on the “left” side of the street, he plays “our song” when we are driving somewhere. He is just delightful!! And I am enjoying him more by the day! Especially since I’ve begun looking for the goodness in him!! The more I find, the more I find. And indeed, I am getting happy!

Getting happy really works!

I’ve been at this for a year now, so I don’t know why I am so surprised. But getting happy to get happier works wonders. I’ve only been at my latest efforts in the relationship realm for a couple of weeks and I must say, the better it gets, the better it gets. I’ve been really working to find ways to appreciate things about my playmate. And when he’s doing something that might not be what I necessarily agree with or want to be around, I’m really working at just seeing my relationship, with whomever it ends up being down the road, exactly as I want it. And what has been so wonderful is that since I started this I’ve been mostly happy, and the more happy I get, the better my time with playmate gets. And the beautiful thing is I haven’t said a word to him about it. We have been just having so much fun together. Last night I met him for sushi (well he ate, I talked), and it was just so much fun connecting with him on a myriad of things. I even had a subject relating to my kids that was making me unhappy, but we quickly turned it around. And now today all I can think about is how much I appreciate having him in my life. And how much I love how much we connect. And I love that he listens. And I love how much alike we are. And I love that sometimes we just need to go off and balance ourselves and that we can do that. I am flying around happy today……….just because I am!

Oh, and by the way, I bought a lottery ticket for the first time in 10 years. My son and I had more fun imagining all the neat things we would do with the money, that that alone was worth the price of the ticket!! FUN!

Appreciating the moment

It has been so much fun looking at playmate and finding things that I appreciate about him. He has so many wonderful qualities. Last night we had an unexpected date. I was extremely tired but wanted to try to stay up late as I had found myself in a nutty cycle of waking up at 3 a.m. and being awake for the day. So we decided to go to a movie. We chose a movie. It wasn’t so good. So we went out to the counter and asked if we could change to a second one. They agreed. Now the second one was much better – BUT- I was tired, and it really wasn’t my thing. Playmate sensed it and said we could go and see if we could just get a pass to come another time. I could see he was enjoying it, so I hedged for a bit. Finally I decided that he offered, I wasn’t enjoying myself, so I said ok. We managed to convince the theatre to give us a pass to come back another day. And we walked over to a restaurant instead. I apologized for making him miss a movie he was enjoying. He looked at me and said, “I have the rest of my life to watch that movie, it is just a movie. I came out tonight to spend it with you, and that is what we are doing, I don’t have another now.” WOW! Is that not something to appreciate. I could have melted right on the spot. I have found a playmate who gets it that we only have now. And right then our now was sitting in a restaurant, not one of us suffering through a movie and the other enjoying themselves. I so appreciate that. When I got home I sent him a message apologizing for being such a drag………and he was like ‘what are you talking about’. He was looking only for the good. I am so appreciative of having a partner who realizes we are all “off” now and then, but still looks for the good anyway. Isn’t that what I’ve been trying to do?? Wonderful. My own playmate is showing me exactly who I want to be and who I want in my life. If you’re happy and you know it……………!!